Reduce Psychological Wounds From Early Trauma..

I just came across this amazing You Tube Video searching for info on Emotionally Unavailable People, and I when I found this.. OMG  I was blown away! It's a video by a veteran trauma-recovery therapist  Peter Gerlach, MSW

I couldn't help but post it here for all the families that have been estranged, or alienated, from each other... or that are in one way or another dysfunctional, this includes Parent Alienation, Children, or Adult Children, Suffering From Parent Alienation Syndrome, Trama Bonding, Stockholm Syndrome, or if you were raised in a home with a Malignant Narcissist, or Psychopath, or the more politically correct term Sociopath parent, or if your parent, caretaker, or whomever was a me, me, me kind of person.. and you never felt good enuff, important enuff, and your self esteem never quite reached the level is was supposed to reach... then this set of You Tube Videos are a MUST WATCH FOR YOU!

Or if you know anyone that needs help from any of the above isues please send this post to them, this isn't a time for shame or blame, this is a time to heal, once and for all.. to stop living a dysfunctional life.. stop living in denial.. stop living a life from a fragmented part of yourself and start living the life your true self is meant to live!

And once you have taken a peek and realize this is the real deal, and it will be the best investment of your time you've ever spent on yourself cuz otherwise IT'S FREE...  you can also send this page to as many people you know that need the help this man & I are offering (I'm simply adding to what he is offering by putting his work out there on my page & offering Coaching with anyone who wants it, while working on his not for profit pages) to me through Wizpert, I have a direct link on the right,if you want to work with me, while you are working with his you tube videos.. just click my picture and you will be sent to my Wizpert Skype Account, where I can help you.. and if I'm not signed on at the time, you can ping me and they will let you know when I'm available.

Please send this page out to as many estranged, alienated, enemeshed, or over protected families as possible, the gentleman in the video is a 30 year therapist working with childhood trauma, and his work is on point!

He is giving this stuff away for FREE! I can't even beat that- God bless him!!!

This is where I started, and he grabbed my attention...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EqZQaJtmqgQ

This is where the first link took me.. and I was further blown away..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZEPAbxSnlFs&list=PLFDDB7B5952B93B5B&index=2

And here is his website...

http://sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm 

Judge Rules NYPD Stop-and-Frisk Violates Rights, Appoints Monitor

Judge Shira Scheindlin also ordered the NYPD to pilot a body camera program for officers

Monday, Aug 12, 2013 | Updated 2:22 PM EDT

 

A federal judge ruled that the contentious NYPD tactic known as stop-and-frisk violates constitutional rights, appointing a monitor to oversee reforms and ordering the department to test body cameras for officers.

U.S. District Court Judge Shira Scheindlin wrote in the opinion released Monday that she was not ordering an end to the practice, but was seeking to provide remedies "to ensure that the practice is carried out in a manner that protects the rights and liberties of all New Yorkers, while still providing much-needed police protection."

She said the practice violates the Fourth Amendment, the right to be secure against unreasonable search and seizure, and the 14th Amendment, which forbids the denial of life, liberty or property, without due process.

Mayor Bloomberg said the city would appeal, and accused the judge of ignoring "the real-world realities of crime." He said the judge's orders, if implemented, would make New York "a more dangerous place."

"This is a very dangerous decision made by a judge that I think just does not understand how policing works," he said.

The judge said she was not imposing any immediate changes to stop-and-frisk because it would be "unwise and impractical" to do so without input from the monitor. Instead, change will come gradually, after the monitor begins work.

One short-term order she did issue was to require the NYPD to test "body-worn cameras" for officers. She said the practice has potential, and said the department must begin a pilot program  with cameras on patrol officers in one precinct per borough. The city must fund the project, she said.

Bloomberg said cameras on officers "is not a solution to the problem."

In addressing the NYPD's reasons for stops, Scheindlin said an officer must have reasonable suspicion "that the person stopped has committed, is committing or is about to commit a crime."

"Furtive movements," a reason cited in some NYPD stops, is not sufficient, nor is simply being present in a "high crime area," the judge wrote.

She also said a person cannot be stopped just for matching a vague description "such as young black male 18 to 24."

Further, she said, people can't be targeted for stops because their racial group may have higher instances of crime. Race, she said, can only be considered when the stop is based on a specific description.

"Officers must cease the targeting of young black and Hispanic males for stops based on the appearance of these groups in crime complaints," she said.

The NAACP said Monday that the ruling was "a groundbreaking victory."

"This is a great day for justice and equality in this city," said New York NAACP President Hazel Dukes.

The judge also addressed what would justify proceeding from a stop to a frisk, declaring that the officer has to suspect the person may be "armed and dangerous." A frisk, she said, is not to discover evidence of a crime, but to uncover potential weapons that could injure police.

Scheindlin said the monitor, former city corporation counsel Peter Zimroth, will primarily be charged with reforming the NYPD's use of the tactic, which "will inevitably touch on issues of training, supervision, monitoring and discipline."

The judge said she was not calling for the NYPD to abandon "proactive policing and return to an earlier era of less effective police practices," but was instead aiming for a fair approach to police stops that would foster trust in the department and promote its mission of fighting crime.

The monitor will develop reforms "as soon as practicable," and will report to the court for approval. He will then be responsible, the judge said, to conduct compliance and progress reviews, and will issue public reports every six months. The city will be responsible for the costs of the monitor, his staff and any experts he uses.

In the meantime, a yet-to-be-appointed facilitator will gather community input, including from town hall meetings in each borough, to hear from "those who are most affected by the NYPD's use of stop-and-frisk," the judge said.

Scheindlin said she would have preferred to work with the city to develop remedies, but that the Bloomberg administration had declined to participate in such a conversation.

The Patrolmen's Benevolent Association said in a statement that the ruling was unnecessarily complex and failed to address the problem.

"Monitors, facilitators and public hearings, which will cost this city millions of dollars, will do nothing more than make the toughest policing job in the world even more difficult and dangerous," said PBA President Patrick Lynch.

The ruling came after more than nine weeks of testimony from men who said they were wrongly stopped because of their race, and police officials who believe the nation's largest force operates with integrity.

More than 5 million stops have been made in New York in the past decade, mostly of black and Hispanic men. Police must have reasonable suspicion to stop someone, a standard lower than probable cause needed to justify an arrest. Only about 10 percent result in arrests.

Original Article, where you can see comments & leave your own:

http://www.nbcnewyork.com/news/local/Stop-and-Frisk-Ruling-Judge-Violates-Rights-219252171.html

In my opinion, having body camera's which are checked at the beginning of every shift and are in working order at all times, on ALL Police, & Any Other Powerful State And Or Other Federal Player that has ANY contact with the public, who is in any kind of life altering position in their dealing with that person of the public, needs to become mandatory; because of incidents like this and other more corrupt incidents where families are being denied their constitutional rights because the corruption ‘The New World Order; has brought with it, and the turning of a blind eye which is going along with these egregious violations of ‘The Peoples’ Constitutional Rights has far surpassed violations of the Peoples 14th amendment rights!

So much so, that those with the police and or political power behind them, have gone beyond disrespecting or just about spatting on ‘The Constitutional Rights’ given to the People by the blood, sweat, tears & deaths of our forefathers up until as recently as the ex- Senator Nancy Schafer & her Husband, for this very reason, so that the people are free to live & say what every they wanted to say, as long as they are following the law, as it was also written back then, before those in power amended the Constitution* (*Changed it to work toward a specifically  corrupt  end, in which [they] the political players would be the only ones to come out surviving, thriving & able to make it under ‘The New World Order’ with all the changes slowly being put in place- that knocked out your average Joe or Jane), But C’mon, who  gave a shit, the first things they started controlling were the things that most would be willing to jump on the bandwagon to support, with their noses help high in the air claiming, “Oh no, we don’t want any of those sleazy smokers sharing our airplanes, or our theaters, then when that went over really well, they took it a step further, and banned smoking from in front of outside certain facilities within a certain amount of feet from the front door. Hell, that didn’t bother you either, you were only too happy to watch those slimy cigarette smokers, stand out in the rain or freezing cold, as long as it didn’t interfere with what you were doing, all was good, wasn’t it?

Well, how about when they decided to.. nah wait, I’ll just link you directly to the link, so you can read it all yourself straight from the horse’s mouth.. and see what you decide for yourself! Take a peek and always remember this little tidbit… where the government was intended to work for the good people of the world, not that the good people of the world would have to hide in fear of our government, for fighting for what our forefathers won for us... 'Our Constitutional Rights' which were put in place to keep checks & balances on both the people & the government so neither would over power the other, and we would live in harmony!

Instead, it appears from keeping track of what is happening to families in family courts as an advocate, since my own family was destroyed by my ex's political connections to the Panepinto's which include acting supreme court judge barbara irola panepinto & her husband Jospeh Panepinto, whom my ex-husband answered to for more than 20 years in the catholic charities CYO basketball league (which I found out is a large part of our Government has found  a way, mainly through Title IV Federal Funding to make a multi-million dollar business out of destroying innocent families, tearing them apart & making psychopaths out of each & every one of them. And some want to know why they are building more poison systems than they are building schools? Re-read this paragraph over & over until you figure it out!

http://www.washingtonsblog.com/2013/02/constitution.html

Woman thought to be dead turns up alive after 30 years..

After a horrible custody battle with her husband over the children, she "had to get away from it all"

Betty Lukich, Phoenix Woman, Is Reunited With Family Who Believed She Was Dead For 30 Years

In 1981, Betty Lukich moved from Maine to Arizona after a messy divorce.

She left behind 12 siblings and four children, who eventually began believing that she had passed away.

But after more than 30 years, the Internet has reunited Lukich with her family, and Maine's Bangor Daily News reports that her 70th birthday this week will be spent at a family reunion with around 200 people.

When asked about her disappearance, Lukich told the Bangor Daily News, "I had to get away from it all."

She moved to Phoenix where she began work as a tractor-trailer driver and traveled the contiguous United States, ABC 15 reports.

When one of Lukich's brothers drunkenly told his sisters that he had buried Lukich in a marijuana field behind his house, they believed him.

“I was 12 the last time I saw her,” Lukich's daughter Donna Keniston, now 50, told the Bangor Daily News. “I thought she was dead."

Fortunately, Lukich was able to connect with cousins earlier this year, and those cousins put her in touch with her sisters and children.

When they learned Lukich was alive, her sister Mary Inman, 75, said, “We cried all day."
Last Sunday, the family reunited in person when Lukich flew to Maine for a month-long visit.

Three of her sisters, her daughter, and other relatives met for a tearful reunion for the first time in three decades.

My two cents: I almost understand this story, to some it may seem inconceivable to leave your own children & family without a trace; and that may be because you've never fought with a Psychopath, or a Malignant Narcissist a broken court system for custody of your children. It seems she chose a safe alternative to whatothers have done under the similar circumstances, either turn to drug, commit suicide, commit homicide, or  very, very, few of us.. have learned to fight back in a healthy way by learning the law and fighting fire with fire. However, that takes years & years & most simply cannot afford that kind of time, energy & efffort.

I will pray that this woman's family will forgive her, and perhaps they will find this blog and read all the links I have on the right hand side about adult healing from Narcissists, or Adult healing from PAS, or Adult healing from anykind of abuse! Although they probably don't see what they wen't through as abuse, there is no other word for it, and they have suffered horribly from it. Which will carry over into their adult relationships, and that I promise, or even guarentee!

Also take a look at www.NoItsNotPersonal.com, for more on what happens when these are the family dynamics in your family!

 

IRS Manual Detailed DEA's Use Of Hidden Intel Evidence

This file photo taken March 2, 2013, shows the Internal Revenue Service building at the Federal Triangle complex in Washington. AP Photo/Manuel Balce Ceneta, File)

By John Shiffman and David Ingram

WASHINGTON, Aug 7 (Reuters) - Details of a U.S. Drug Enforcement Administration program that feeds tips to federal agents and then instructs them to alter the investigative trail were published in a manual used by agents of the Internal Revenue Service for two years.

The practice of recreating the investigative trail, highly criticized by former prosecutors and defense lawyers after Reuters reported it this week, is now under review by the Justice Department. Two high-profile Republicans have also raised questions about the procedure.

A 350-word entry in the Internal Revenue Manual instructed agents of the U.S. tax agency to omit any reference to tips supplied by the DEA's Special Operations Division, especially from affidavits, court proceedings or investigative files. The entry was published and posted online in 2005 and 2006, and was removed in early 2007. The IRS is among two dozen arms of the government working with the Special Operations Division, including the Federal Bureau of Investigation, the National Security Agency and the Central Intelligence Agency.

An IRS spokesman had no comment on the entry or on why it was removed from the manual. Reuters recovered the previous editions from the archives of the Westlaw legal database, which is owned by Thomson Reuters Corp, the parent of this news agency.

As Reuters reported Monday, the Special Operations Division of the DEA funnels information from overseas NSA intercepts, domestic wiretaps, informants and a large DEA database of telephone records to authorities nationwide to help them launch criminal investigations of Americans. The DEA phone database is distinct from a NSA database disclosed by former NSA contractor Edward Snowden.

Monday's Reuters report cited internal government documents that show that law enforcement agents have been trained to conceal how such investigations truly begin - to "recreate" the investigative trail to effectively cover up the original source of the information.

DEA officials said the practice is legal and has been in near-daily use since the 1990s. They have said that its purpose is to protect sources and methods, not to withhold evidence.


NEW DETAIL

Defense attorneys and some former judges and prosecutors say that systematically hiding potential evidence from defendants violates the U.S. Constitution. According to documents and interviews, agents use a procedure they call "parallel construction" to recreate the investigative trail, stating in affidavits or in court, for example, that an investigation began with a traffic infraction rather than an SOD tip.

The IRS document offers further detail on the parallel construction program.

"Special Operations Division has the ability to collect, collate, analyze, evaluate, and disseminate information and intelligence derived from worldwide multi-agency sources, including classified projects," the IRS document says. "SOD converts extremely sensitive information into usable leads and tips which are then passed to the field offices for real-time enforcement activity against major international drug trafficking organizations."

The 2005 IRS document focuses on SOD tips that are classified and notes that the Justice Department "closely guards the information provided by SOD with strict oversight." While the IRS document says that SOD information may only be used for drug investigations, DEA officials said the SOD role has recently expanded to organized crime and money laundering.

According to the document, IRS agents are directed to use the tips to find new, "independent" evidence: "Usable information regarding these leads must be developed from such independent sources as investigative files, subscriber and toll requests, physical surveillance, wire intercepts, and confidential source information. Information obtained from SOD in response to a search or query request cannot be used directly in any investigation (i.e. cannot be used in affidavits, court proceedings or maintained in investigative files)."

The IRS document makes no reference to SOD's sources of information, which include a large DEA telephone and Internet database.


CONCERN IN CONGRESS

House Intelligence Committee Chairman Mike Rogers, R-Michigan, expressed concern with the concept of parallel construction as a method to hide the origin of an investigation. His comments came on the Mike Huckabee Show radio program.

"If they're recreating a trail, that's wrong and we're going to have to do something about it," said Rogers, a former FBI agent. "We're working with the DEA and intelligence organizations to try to find out exactly what that story is."

Spokespeople for the DEA and the Department of Justice declined to comment.

Sen. Rand Paul, R-Kentucky, a member of the Homeland Security and Government Affairs Committee, said he was troubled that DEA agents have been "trying to cover up a program that investigates Americans."

"National security is one of government's most important functions. So is protecting individual liberty," Paul said. "If the Constitution still has any sway, a government that is constantly overreaching on security while completely neglecting liberty is in grave violation of our founding doctrine."

Officials have stressed that the NSA and DEA telephone databases are distinct. The NSA database, disclosed by Snowden, includes data about every telephone call placed inside the United States. An NSA official said that database is not used for domestic criminal law enforcement.

The DEA database, called DICE, consists largely of phone log and Internet data gathered legally by the DEA through subpoenas, arrests and search warrants nationwide. DICE includes about 1 billion records, and they are kept for about a year and then purged, DEA officials said. (Research by Hilary Shroyer of West, a Thomson Reuters business. Additional reporting by David Lawder. Edited by Michael Williams)